The Art of Saying “No,” A Practical Guide

April 2, 2019

Saying “no” is hard. Before I started saying “no,” I hadn’t thought much beyond the actual moment of just saying “no.” I am now realizing that saying “no” can be a thing of beauty. These days, I try & think of saying “no” as an art form. Like any creative act, how you say “no” should look unique to you. I know from experience that it takes practice, an openness to spiritual transformation, but the pros I have received in return are HUGE. If you are exhausted a lot, if you feel like you never get enough done, if you wish you had more downtime, and/or if you wish you had more time for the things that really matter in your life, I hope these suggestions are helpful and, most importantly, motivating for you. This is part a step-by-step guide, part thought-work around saying-no. A word about power/identity. People of color, queer people, women, and especially people at the intersections of these positions are often underrepresented and bear the brunt of representing the entire community of which we are a part, being in/formal mentors to others, and other aspects of minority stress. Despite a repudiation of “identity politics” (a term … Read More